It is hard for parents to put their not so great moments out there. In a world full of filters and social media apps we forget that we are all human and make mistakes. No parent is perfect. As long as we learn from our words and continue to grow as individuals and parents I think we can be successful at this parenting thing. 

It was a Tuesday and our four-year-old’s last baseball game of the season. At the end of the game we went to say thank you to the coach. As the coach is praising our son he looks at us and says “he has the best hand eye coordination on the team.”

Instead of accepting the compliment, I reply “he just needs to pay attention a little more.”

Coach says, “well he is just four.

And in that moment it hits me. 

I hate to admit it, but instead of taking compliments I immediately pick out the flaws. Not just with my son, but also with myself. The BUT always seems to makes its way in-between the praise and the correction. 

Maybe it’s because I am a perfectionist or like to be an overachiever or because my son is starting to mold into a little version of myself. 

Sometimes I forget he is only four. I forget that since he has a summer birthday he has to play up with the kids who are five and six, some may even be pushing seven. 

The mom guilt hit me like a ton of bricks. 

It made me realize the pressure I sometimes put on my son to be “perfect.” 

I want him to always be his best self. I want him to always pay attention and to apply himself to be the best person on the team or in the classroom. My A-type personality is starting to creep into my parenting style and it is starting to show. It was this defining moment that I realized I needed to reel it back in. 

My son is four. He has years to learn a sport he may love. Right now, he is having fun playing baseball with his new friends. He has the opportunity to play with children older than him and he continues to be his observant self. 

We try to teach our children daily lessons, but every once in awhile parents can learn lessons too. 

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Amanda is a new Washington County resident. She and her husband just bought their first home together in the North Strabane area. They are parents to a handsome little man named Lorenzo who will be 6 in August. His smile and energy lights up a room. He just may be the next Pittsburgh Penguin star! She graduated from Point Park University in 2010 with a Bachelor’s degree in Advertising and Public Relations. Even though her full-time job does not relate to her degree, she is still able to get her creativity out by contributing to Pittsburgh Moms Blog. It has always been her dream to share her own experiences with the world. Amanda is a working mom who is always struggling to balance life. Marriage, motherhood, friendship, and work all very important to her. Trying to maintain a work-life balance is key to her happiness. She hopes to one day inspire women to believe in themselves, stand up for one another, and never take life too seriously.